The open relationship idea was mine.
I had never promised fidelity to anyone and this time
it was made clear from the outset.

Being the first girl I fell in love with,
I thought I might give monogamy a go if she really wanted me to.
The fact that she was a virgin until she met me
made it unlikely that she could forever resist finding out
what other lovers are like.
And there isn't much point in having me disciplining myself
into monogamy. I had to want it.

So the deal was: "OK, but we have to notify each other when any
affair happens, and we won't *continue* the affair. It will just be
a one night stand."

Living in cities 1000km apart and only visiting every 3 or 4 weeks,
it seemed to make extra sense.
Instead, it only made the resulting complications worse.
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